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The Friend Zone: A Self Made ‘Trap’

Before I begin, I’d like to thank Soban Zafar (@thearsenalox) for the title of this post.  I informed him I’ll be writing about the friend zone and he replied saying 

Hayyeee friendzone

The ultimate trap

Hahaha

To which I replied that the friend zone is a self made trap.  Now you know the origins of the title – wahay!

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I came across a discussion/debate on my time line a few days ago regarding the ‘friend zone’.  I offered my two cents but the-friend-zone_889thought I could offer more, so here I am!

The ‘friend zone’ – a term that makes the nice guys whimper at their rotten luck, girls frown upon potentially losing – if not lost already – a good friend, and the friends of those men/women shake their head at either the blindness of the chased or the irrationality of the chaser.

Can’t you see he loves you so much?  He would do anything to make you happy?  You’re being unbelievably stupid!

Dude she just doesn’t like you back, MOVE onnnnnn!

This post will look at why us men fall into the ‘friend zone’ – no, it’s not merely because a girl says ‘I see you as a friend’.  This post will primarily look at

  • Why we’re seen as only a friend [hint: it’s not because nice guys finish last]
  • Why we are unable to accept that we’re seen as a friend

I’m no expert, this will be purely opinion based on personal experience, hours of listening to and observing female friends about their relationship issues; and, being in a long-term relationship really places perspective on the whole idea of the ‘friend zone’.

Without further ado, let’s begin! Continue reading →

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